I thought I could do it on my own, but I don't think I can any more... I need help... I want no I need to stop drinking... please... Dear god, here me now...
you came to the right place Ron. The people here are a never ending support network. You are not alone. I am sure any one of us will be here to talk you through it at anytime you want.
Also, talk to some professional people as well. You have achieved that first brave step of recognising there is a problem. Hang in there, I will be thinking of you.
Lisa
Your only 40 and your having trouble??? Shit I've been smoking 25 outta the 31 years I've been alive and I'll tell you its all in your head. You gotta ask yourself who's gonna win me or this bottle? and make sure YOU set the standard. If you st out to suceed in everything in your life then this should be easy. If you have failed in everything then your in trouble. Its all in the mind. If you need someone to call when shit gets ruff then pm me and I will give you my number.
I have a headache... I have to go to work now, when I get home I'm going to install ICQ or one of the other instant message programs. I know there are a couple of programs that will let you talk on all the IM channels. If you are willing to help if I need it, please send me your IM nickname and which program ya use...
I have a headache... I have to go to work now, when I get home I'm going to install ICQ or one of the other instant message programs. I know there are a couple of programs that will let you talk on all the IM channels. If you are willing to help if I need it, please send me your IM nickname and which program ya use...
I love you guys!
Hang in there and drink lots of water -- lots of it. Hangovers are primarily dehydration... drinking water will help with that and also help your body to flush all the bad stuff out of your system.
You can do it, and feel free to lean on us for support. My IM names are in my profile.
It’s been said, and I believe it’s true, that God helps those that help themselves. As notonline said, it’s all in your head. You will either decide to drink, or you will decide not to drink. All you need to do is decide not to drink; every time the question arises. It’s all up to you. No one else can do it for you. Don’t be afraid to change. Good luck and best wishes.
6 years ago my sister was told to stop drinking for the good of her family
3.5 yrs ago after a drinking related illness she was told that if she quit she could still have a relitively normal life - though shortened
1.5 yrs ago she nearly bled to death from internal varicose veins - shortly after she entered dry out treatment
1.25 yrs ago it was determined that she could not mentally commit to a rehab program & liver transplant(due to calcification of the brain)
49 weeks ago she died
i strongly suggest you get your drinking under control
I wish it were as easy for you as it sounds... just decide to stop drinking. Unfortunately, it's not that simple because alchoholism is a disease - not a state of mind. Once you have become physically dependent upon alcohol it takes more than just a mindset to recover. Certainly, it is a large part of the battle, but not the entire war.
I absolutely encourage you to enlist the help of your physician, or an alcohol treatment center, to help you through the acute phase of withdrawals, which are the toughest part of the journey for many. There are medications available to alleviate withdrawal symptoms that have been beneficial to many. Your doctor should be able to recommend a course of action that suits you best.
I also encourage you to find a good therapist to help you and your family through this. Many may think it silly but unless you can get to the root of the issues that cause you to turn to alcohol for help, your war with it may never end. Stopping the drinking is not the entire cure if there are deeply buried issues that create the desire for the alcohol in the first place. Family therapy will help address those issues and allow your wife and son to feel useful, involved, and supportive while you fight this.
Please know you aren't alone, that a lot of people are pulling for you. Small condolences I know, but it's a glimmer of hope that might help keep you going.
I wish it were as easy for you as it sounds... just decide to stop drinking. Unfortunately, it's not that simple because alchoholism is a disease - not a state of mind. Once you have become physically dependent upon alcohol it takes more than just a mindset to recover. Certainly, it is a large part of the battle, but not the entire war.
I absolutely encourage you to enlist the help of your physician, or an alcohol treatment center, to help you through the acute phase of withdrawals, which are the toughest part of the journey for many. There are medications available to alleviate withdrawal symptoms that have been beneficial to many. Your doctor should be able to recommend a course of action that suits you best.
I also encourage you to find a good therapist to help you and your family through this. Many may think it silly but unless you can get to the root of the issues that cause you to turn to alcohol for help, your war with it may never end. Stopping the drinking is not the entire cure if there are deeply buried issues that create the desire for the alcohol in the first place. Family therapy will help address those issues and allow your wife and son to feel useful, involved, and supportive while you fight this.
Please know you aren't alone, that a lot of people are pulling for you. Small condolences I know, but it's a glimmer of hope that might help keep you going.
Sound advice, Laurie. Alcoholism is a disease that has to be attacked from several angles -- mental, physical and social. Your physician can help you deal with the issues of how alcohol affects your body, and a therapist can help with the underlying issues that lead you to drink in the first place.
The social issues involve enlisting the support of those around you in getting sober again. It's times like this that you find out who your real friends are. A friend is someone who is willing to support you in your effort to become a better person. Anyone unwilling to do that... well, you're better off without them.
I absolutely encourage you to enlist the help of your physician, or an alcohol treatment center, to help you through the acute phase of withdrawals, which are the toughest part of the journey for many. There are medications available to alleviate withdrawal symptoms that have been beneficial to many. Your doctor should be able to recommend a course of action that suits you best.
Sound advice, Laurie. Alcoholism is a disease that has to be attacked from several angles -- mental, physical and social. Your physician can help you deal with the issues of how alcohol affects your body, and a therapist can help with the underlying issues that lead you to drink in the first place.
The social issues involve enlisting the support of those around you in getting sober again. It's times like this that you find out who your real friends are. A friend is someone who is willing to support you in your effort to become a better person. Anyone unwilling to do that... well, you're better off without them.
-Terry
If you've been drinking relatively large amounts consistently for any period of time, it is actually not safe to just "cold turkey" from alcohol -- there can be serious medical consequences including seizures. A rapid tapering-off under medical supervision is safest. The situation is similar for people addicted to barbiturate sedatives.
Interestingly, although withdrawal from heroin makes people feel like dying, they virtually never do.
All in the mind or a Physical problem.... it doesn't matter. What matters is what you, and only you, can decide what to do about it. It is a cognative action. Recognising that there is a wrong in your behaviour/a better out there, is a great first step. Doing something about it other than just talking about, ie an even bigger step, is step 2. Again, a cognative action, your choice, your decision.
What you may need, like all of us, is support.... and that you have. Just read this thread! But I agree, because of the physical aspects involved, engage the help of your doctor, a trained, trusted understanding person.
TC, after all being said and done, look around you.... you will see us, all of us, waiting there for you to take our hands, we are reaching out for you, just take our hands.
And never, ever be ashamed of being human, we all are. We all have something hidden, a burden, a problem.... something or somebody we don't easily talk about. Very few of us can say'I'm holier than thou".
Hang in there...
